A lot of people believe that long distance relationships does not last. Many families discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.
Well, Im not saying it's easy, honestly, the distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get bored and lonely at times. To keep your love alive and strong, here are the best ways to make things work in a long distance
Relationship:
1. Be clear on what you expect of with each other during the relationship. Set some rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other by surprise. For instance: are you two limited to each other? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.
2. See it as a it as a learning journey for the both of you.
See it as a test of your love for each other. Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.
See it as a test of your love for each other. Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.
3. Do similar things.
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same thing, it will help you have more topics in common to talk about. This is good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.
4. Try to communicate regularly, and add creatively to it.
Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must!. In addition to that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
5. Know each other’s schedules.
It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free, so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc.
6. Do things together.
Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype, Take a walk together outside while video-calling each other. Go online-shopping together — and buy each other gifts You really have to be creative about it
7. Keep track of each other’s social media activities.
Like each other’s photos on Facebook and Instagram. Tweet each other. Tag each other. Share things on each other’s walls. Show that you care.
8. Be honest with each other.
Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, etc. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
9. Send Each Other Gifts.
send each other postcards and hand-written love letters. Send each other gifts from time to time. surprise each other with cool T-shirts, wrist watches, sexy under wears and many more!
10. Visit each other.
Visits are outstanding part of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting, yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, cuddling, hugging, etc. which are all common to other couples but very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships.
11. Avoid Excessive Communication
It is foolish to be over sticky and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples thought that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true! And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”
12. Stay Positive.
You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, I know the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonely but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven. One way to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.
I know that sometimes, you feel lonely because you're alone but the truth is— you are not lonely, unless you choose to feel like it. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner — you still have you, your friends and your family. Spend time with your friends and family. Go to the gym more often, Get a new hobby, Watch shows. There are plenty of things for you to do that doesn’t involve your partner. I wish you the best of Luck.
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