If you want to have a blissful relationship, don’t ruin the chances by introducing sex into your relationship until you are ready for it.
I’m constantly baffled when people can’t figure out why they keep having failed
relationships when they mess them up with physical intimacy. It’s common for couples to kiss on their first date, begin romancing soon afterwards and start a sexual relationship within a few weeks or months
of knowing each other.
I’m not going to tell you how long you should wait to begin kissing, hugging and making non-sexual contact, but I’m going to boldly state that our bodies and minds are not designed for sexual relationships until marriage.
The average Nigerian has at least 4 sexual partners before they are married. They either think each partner is “the one” or they think sex is so wonderful they don’t want to miss out on the opportunity.
Sex is indeed wonderful and very special and saving it for the wedding night is treating it as something special..!! Sharing it with practically everyone you date makes it rather ordinary.
Here are just a few of the emotional problems premarital sex can cause:
When you sleep with someone you aren’t married to, they begin to get concerned with how many other people you have slept with.
If you are willing to have sex with someone you aren’t married to, you will feel the same after you are married,which is cheating on your wife.. Rates of affairs are dramatically higher with those who engage in lots of premarital sex compared to those who were virgins when married.
Since sexual relationships were designed for married couples, your mind naturally begins pushing the relationship further along than where you might be.
You might not even know the person you are sleeping with but you start forming an emotional attachment to them. Many couples who really shouldn’t be together are married because a premarital sexual relationship “bonded” them together when they wouldn’t have bonded without being physically intimate.
I’ve talked with quite a few people who waited to begin a sexual relationship only when they were married and none of them have regretted it. I’ve chatted with numerous people who began a sexual relationship before the wedding and practically all of them had regrets.
Always remember this: waiting to have sex until you are married won’t guarantee a blissful relationship, but it will certainly cause your mate to honor and respect you much more.
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21 comments:
Dis is very correct!
Im glad you agree.
OK....so what if you wait until marriage and find out you're not sexually compatible? And yes this is possible and happens often.
Marriage is all about Building each other, helping each other grow, finding & perfecting each others imperfections, right? If you find out that you are sexually incompatible, then you make yourselves sexually compatible. That is the essence of the oat you took.. (For better for worse) don't expect it to be a bed of roses..
Don't deceive yourself by saying u're having sex to be sure u're sexually compatible. Lets tell ourselves the truth. :-)
This is what people need to learn. Sex before marriage is not ideal. 99.9 percent of marriages that ended up in divorce show that both partners had premarital sex while dating...once you have started having sex before marriage what is there to offer after marriage..nothing.
It like opening a gift before it is presented...no suprise...nothing new.
Thanks bro.. You've made a clear point.
You've said it all.
And your'e saying this because you are a virgin or >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>??
Even from the biblical point of view...premarital sex can be harmful...
Lol.. U wana know if I'm a Virgin or not abi? :-)
Im glad you really understand. Thanks for stoping by..
Premarital Sex is also called Furnication or Adultery and it makes us unclean... Our body is d Lords temple so we must keep it clean @ all time...
You're Right.. Thanks for your contribution.
How about post marital sex? Is this Ok? Why people mix up love with sex, sex is physical need like hunger and it can be fulfilled by having masturbation, using tools or having sex with a male or female. But husband wife relation is not about sex, its love and responsibility. Short time marriage during travel or other situation has been reported/recommended in many religion.
True word only if it can be told often
I totally agree to this God bless you
Finding a compatible partner is the key to a happy marriage. I don't believe premarital sex affects marriage. It's only religion that teaches that.
Great article. #God first
I really can't agree on a statement given above. Do you think you can marry sum1 u completely don't know. I have to know the whole being of the person ím about to marry. No knowledge of a person, how she behaves, how to handle her, how special she feels when she's with you in bed. Sex is special and again it can atomic and it can organise two minds to be one. Today is no longer the same as yesteryears. U get married at an earlier stage but u can't otherwise she won't wait forever unless u have rich family to help complete marrying. If ten years passes she will
That I can't see just like men she come across with on the streets. U may know her for years but she is still
Gonna be a stranger in ur bed or arms and the marriage is not gonna last. Yes, marriage is about everlasting friendship and sex is naturally an additive to such friendship. If this friendship can't be started now then the marriage is not gonna happen or last
Great article...i think its a good thing not to have premarital sex because when you have sex with someone you are united with them body and soul its like being glued to each other.Now what happens when you find out that you are not compatible after submitting yourself to this person,,,the gluing has to be undone(attachment/bond).So if you are going to have sex with every person you date how many people is your body and soul going to be attached to?And usually you will always treasure the first time you had sex and would love to have the same environment which surrounded you the first time to be the same every time you have sex and if your current partner cannot present things the way they were the first time or with another partner in the chain then it pushes you to cheat.
this is very true, thanks so much but the challenge is on the implementation hey, so hectic
what if its too late to choose that path.....n besides, majority would wanna experience that thing b4 marriage due to the dominance of those that do n dd it b4 marriage
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