1. Learn how to socialize
You can build your self-esteem by practicing how to tell jokes, asking questions and introducing new topics when chatting with girls who you are not attracted to. You might end up getting along with one of the girls and even ask her out just to see how it will go. I advise that romance should not be involved in your first outing with her. It can be a friendly lunch, coffee, or movie.
2. Learn how to talk to girls
Start working on your confidence by talking to girls while participating in school, social activities or while at work. Since you already have something in common, you can just talk about your classes, work or even about what the next office meeting will be about. You can also ask about her thoughts on the previous meeting and many other work- or school-related issues. It helps build your confidence.
If you really want to talk to the prettiest girl in your area or work place and you are not courageous enough, you can begin with a smile and then say “hi” the next time you meet her. Each time you meet her make sure you say hi and make sure you have a question which will trigger a conversation. Remember take some baby steps while approaching her. I mean you should take things easy.
3. Be a good listener
Ask the girls you are not attracted to some important questions about their lives and careers and then let them continue the conversation with a detailed explanation. Remember, girls love men who listen and they will most likely think that you are really charming if you just sit there and listen to her very attentively. You can also ask her about her favorite movie or music or why she enjoys the sports she plays, or the work she does.
4. Don't focus on your negative attributes
Many shy guys feel intimidated by girls because they always focus on their negative attributes. Shyness and hesitation occur when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on the lady you're talking to. You'll forget about your fears and she'll be flattered by the attention. Remember, the best way to boost your self-esteem and confidence is by always focusing on your positive qualities.
5. Don't take things personally
If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you shouldn't take every comment, insinuation or joke as a personal insult. People sometimes say things they don't mean.
6. Don't fear Rejection
This is very important! You must teach yourself how to accept rejection.
Just because a girl says no to you does not mean that you are not good looking or charming. Instead of discouraging yourself, take it as an experience. Remember girls have various personal reasons for rejecting men, and it is not because they want to leave you feeling like a looser. Sometimes it might be because of your manner of approach, so find out want you did wrong and avoid it next time.
When you're talking to a girl, pay more attention on making the conversation enjoyable and not about how to get her number, or how to sleep with her. That will come naturally when the time is right.
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Ok. Thanks. Its really helpful
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